I don’t think anyone checks on us parents often enough. Especially during the last seven months. Everyone is concerned with themselves and their immediate family (which is totally fine!). What we are going through now has made us all appreciate the little things. When you feel like you’re stuck in the Twilight Zone constantly, you have to realize there are tiny milestones to celebrate. You have to find something each day to be present in. That moment of fun. That moment of relief. That moment of gratitude. We all need those moments.
When we find these moments that sometimes seem to be hidden amongst a wall of fear or anger, we need to abandon ourselves completely. What I mean by that is we must transform into our own superhero. Wondermom. Superdad. Captain Mom. Spiderdad. We put everything aside to put our children first. Their well-being. Their happiness. That’s all that matters. When you put someone or something first for so long, you tend to forget that you also need to be watered in order to grow. It takes a lot out on us raising our children to hopefully be great people one day. That’s all we ever want.
I was standing in line waiting to shop at Trader Joe’s the other day, when there was a woman playing the violin outside. She captured everyone’s attention and I could see the smiles behind everyone’s masks. There was one lady who got out of line to just go and dance to the music. I’m not sure if it’s my motherly hormones but it brought tears to my eyes. Witnessing the simple joy of song and dance during these new normal situations. That woman even leaving the line ( and if you go to the Trader Joe’s in Hyannis you know that’s a big deal leaving your spot in line ) ! Everything about that moment was beautiful. Humanity. If you want to listen to this superwoman’s music, her Instagram handle is Violin Viiv.
Just getting out of the house to grocery shop while my boyfriend and daughter stayed home was some quality “me” time. We all need alone time. We all need to stay sane for humanity. We need to stay present and maybe today, just ask a parent if they are okay. Ask them if they would like to have a socially distanced coffee while the weather is still nice. A place they can be okay for a little while. Escape the everyday and just be.